The Worst Thanksgiving Ever

I wrote this article for Queen Latifah’s website a year ago, and wanted to share it with you today and tomorrow. It’s rather long, so I’m dividing it into two parts.

My mother died early on a Monday morning. It was November 23, the week of Thanksgiving. While everyone else was preparing to be thankful for all their blessings, we were a house of mourning. We decided to have Mom’s funeral the Saturday after Thanksgiving, so that relatives and friends would have time to be with their families for Thanksgiving, then travel to be with us as we remembered Mom.

We spent Monday and Tuesday of that week planning the funeral and ordering flowers. The rest of the week seemed as though it would last forever. We were a grieving family in limbo, and a major holiday was looming in the meantime. As the oldest child and a mom myself, I had no idea what to do for Thanksgiving dinner. We had to eat something, but we were all too exhausted to make a turkey dinner. Plus, we were still at that point in our grief where we just didn’t care what we ate.

Thanksgiving came. And with it came a whole Thanksgiving dinner, made for us by a woman from my parents’ church. She made two turkeys that day, one for us and one for her own family. Her thoughtfulness and her delicious meal helped us get through that difficult week.

In this world we live in today, some have lamented that we aren’t connected the way we used to be. Even in the age of the internet and social media, there seems to be a social disconnect from what is important. Families have become more spread out; does our “village” still exist, especially in the cities and suburbs that seem to sprawl across our country? Since I’ve been the recipient of many meals over the years, I decided to ask others if they have ever received meals.

Have you ever received a meal when you needed it? Does your village still exist? I’ll be publishing the rest of this article tomorrow.

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Everybody Loves These Pumpkin Bars

Last Sunday we had a potluck Thanksgiving dinner for our Sunday school kids. My contribution was two sheets of pumpkin bars; one frosted and one plain. I wanted to be sure that there was enough for everyone, and the first sheet disappeared quickly! I took most of the bars on the second sheet home, and Ed said that we could bring them to Thanksgiving dinner on Thursday. Silly man! As if they will last until Thursday! You can make your own cream cheese frosting or do what I did: buy a can of frosting at the store. And they taste just as good without frosting.

pumpkin bars

Pumpkin Bars

4 eggs
2 cups white sugar
1 cup canola oil
1 can (15 ounce) pumpkin puree
2 cups all-purpose flour
2 tsp. baking powder
2 tsp. ground cinnamon
1 tsp. baking soda
3/4 tsp. salt

Preheat oven to 350 degrees. Grease a large jelly roll pan. Beat eggs with electric mixer until foamy; add sugar, oil and pumpkin. Beat on medium speed until incorporated for 2 minutes. Mix dry ingredients in separate bowl and beat into egg mixture on low speed until just combined. Pour batter into prepared pan. Bake for 20-25 minutes.

Cream Cheese Frosting

Beat 1 package cream cheese, softened, with 1 cup butter, softened, and 2 tsp. vanilla together until creamy. Gradually add 4 cups confectioner’s sugar and beat until smooth. Spread frosting over cooled pumpkin bars.

Enjoy with a cup of coffee!

To print this recipe, click here!

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