Driving on and on and on

As JRR Tolkien wrote, the road goes ever on and on. And on, and on, especially when the girls and I took a road trip from our house to Luther College in Decorah, Iowa. There is no four lane highway that goes to Decorah which made for an extremely long drive. That evening, we were going to attend a concert by the Lutheran Summer Music concert band. They were performing a piece that my sister composed, and we could hardly wait to hear it in person!

My sister lives in California, which is even farther away from Illinois. I rarely get to go to one of my sister’s concerts in person. I’ve heard recordings of her concerts, but actually being able to attend a live performance was a chance I couldn’t miss. Ed stayed home to work, but the girls and I piled into the car on a Thursday morning for our long drive.

Ginny driving

We drove through 62 miles of construction on I90 and made it to Madison in time for lunch. We drove through cornfields, passed a row of wind turbines, and went over swollen Midwestern rivers.

turbines

We had good conversation and listened to music. We had fights over blankets and the temperature in the car. We had quiet time and coloring.

bored emmy

We had Pizza Hut for dinner, since it was next to the hotel in a small town and we were hungry. Finally, we were seated in the concert hall, and I fought back the tears as the music washed over me. As my sister stood up and applauded the conductor and concert band, Emmy whispered in my ear, “I have to go to the bathroom.” The band had more music to play, and as we stood in the hallway waiting for the applause to begin again so we could go back into the auditorium, Emmy confessed that she had to go during my sister’s composition. “But I knew it was important to listen, so I waited until it was over!”

Well played, Emmy. Well played.

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My Advice to Myself {Spin Cycle}

Lately, I’ve been feeling rushed. Which seems quite ridiculous to me, since I’m mostly a stay-at-home mom. I rush to get ready in the morning; to pack lunches, make sure my children are fed and dressed and then rush out the door to drop them off at school. I rush to volunteer at church or school or to my part time job, to the grocery store or to the doctor’s office.

When I’m at home, I’m rushing to throw that load of laundry in the washing machine, to empty the dishwasher or vacuum something. Before I know it, I need to pick up the girls from school and rush to ballet, rush to do math and study spelling words, make dinner, wash the dishes and put the kids to bed.

In between writing these paragraphs, I cleared junk mail off of the counter, put a load of laundry in the dryer, noticed what time it was and rushed to get dinner going on the stove. I took out the garbage and recycling (see “cleared off the counter” up above!)

Even when I’m online I’m in a rush; to answer emails or comment on blogs, Facebook or Google+ as quickly as I can so that I can get back to the real tasks in life.

Raise your hand if this sounds familiar.

Way back when I was teaching full time and going to graduate school, I used to quell that rising feeling of anxiety by telling myself that everything I needed to do would get done.  That paper would get written in time, my report cards would be handed out on the correct days, and I would be prepared for parent conferences.

Somehow, it worked. By plugging away and working steadily and also (this is important!) taking breaks, it all got done.

My tasks now are quite different, but it all gets done. The girls go to school with clean clothes, I manage to make dinner every night, and sometimes, there are crumbs under the kitchen table.

I’ll vacuum those crumbs…tomorrow. It will get done.

Spin Cycle at Second BloomingGretchen is giving advice this week at The Spin Cycle. Put your spin on it and tell me in the comments below…what advice would you like to give me, someone else, or yourself?

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