I’ve been there for most of my first daughter’s firsts. First tooth, first steps, first day of preschool, first time riding a bike without training wheels.
I listened to her read her first book, Olivia’s Opposites, I held her hand when the dentist pulled out her first loose teeth (they wouldn’t come out on their own!), and I held her hand as we walked to her first day of Kindergarten.
However, there are some firsts that I missed. When Lily slept in a big girl bed for the first time, I was in the hospital after giving birth to Emmy. My parents had brought my old twin bed and set it up for Lily, so that Emmy would have a crib to sleep in when we came home from the hospital. Lily’s first sleepover was away from home. Oh, how I missed having her in her twin bed in the room next to mine! And there have been other firsts that I have missed because she was in school and I was at work; first visits to plays and museums that she has done without me.
As Lily grows older, there will be many more firsts for her that I will miss. It will be bittersweet for me; I was sad to miss her first night in a big girl bed, but was also happy that my parents had helped with that transition when I came home with a newborn. Some of her firsts make me nervous; such as the first time she crossed the street alone. She came home safe and sound after that first. Lily will not want me with her for some future firsts; she will definitely not want me there the first time she kisses a boy.
When Lily went to the Museum of Science and Industry without me, she came home and talked nonstop about her first visit. I know that I won’t always be there for the many “firsts” to come, but Lily knows that I’ll always be there to listen to all her “firsts.”
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How wonderful that we can witness so many of children’s firsts, all are awesome but as you point out some a little scary. It’s interesting to watch our children grow and take on more and more responsibility and with more responsibility comes more risk.
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Aw, made me smile reading today and I also know I might not be able to witness some of my girls firsts as they do get older, but hopeful that will tell me all about them as they can and share with me as much as possible still 🙂
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How cute she was then to today! I am sure there will be plenty of boys who will want to hold her hand and kiss in the coming years.
One of the many pluses of being a mom, is seeing all your kids firsts.
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Ahh, the firsts. What a great topic! The firsts in life are both scary and exciting, aren’t they? For those involved and for those who watch. Love the pics of your cutie-pie daughter.
I can just imagine you standing there looking at her while she is kissing a boy for the first time! 😉
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Your post is so sweet! I totally understand it’s bittersweet not being able to be there when Lily celebrates many of her firsts.
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You know what’s weird and you reminded me about? I never lost any teeth. My brother accidentally knocked one or two out, but the rest were pulled. Why didn’t I lose any teeth naturally???
Moving on..
I get so weird when I think about my kids having firsts without me. There have been a few times in which the grandparents wanted to take them to a circus or zoo or whatnot and I’ve said, “Not until I have!”
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